Can you believe the crazy that was 2020? I know at the end of every year, I always reflect on how quickly it passed, but this year.. this year has been like nothing we've ever experienced before. I'm not sure where the year even went, it was kind of like this weird vortex, where everything was moving so slowly, yet the year was speeding by at the same time.
With more than half the year pretty much locked down, working from home, distancing from family, friends and work colleagues (and strangers), no travel, all types of entertainment closed, massive unemployment, it has been a year of uncertainty, anxiety and fear for so many. The energy has felt incredibly dense and laden with unknowing. And with the heavy expectations of following all the 'rules' the energy has certainly felt very controlling, focused and masculine.
And the interesting thing this bought up for me, was that the feminine, creative and reflective nature of many of my clients and other women I know, was often pushed aside to fit in and work within the 'rules' that the year required of all of us. Many, many women were overcome by the intense controlling energy and allowed their softer, reflective nature to be pushed down and hidden, just to maintain the required energy to get through their day. I personally, saw many women take on very masculine and aggressive energy, especially in the corporate workspace. I feel there were many reasons for this. But I also feel that the heavy expectations and insistent rules of 2020, created a space where some women struggled to maintain their 'truth'.
If you're like me and many other women, part of our feminine nature means that we like to plan, reflect and create as part of our spiritual practice. Every year I purchase a planner and use it to reflect on the year just gone, what worked, what didn't and what I want to change or do differently in the coming year, what I want to build on. My big why, gratitude, forgiveness. I plan my weeks and months ahead, reflect on my life and business... but this year... my planner went unfilled. I am literally throwing my 2020 planner in the bin without a single entry.
Now don't get me wrong, I have a solid spiritual foundation and practice, I am constantly questioning and working on my inner landscape, but to be completely truthful... this year pushed my boundaries a lot. The energy was so heavy, dense and dripping with fear, that at times I forgot to remember to balance it out. I ran a few Circles over the year, attended a couple of spiritual trainings and workshops and supported my clients with sacred healings (when permitted), but mostly my Temple space sat quiet, which made my heart sad, because it's in this Sacred space where the supportive, reflective and creative feminine force is felt most.
But to be honest, this year I have sat back and allowed mediocre to creep in. I have not taken the steps to fully step into my potential. I have allowed the masculine energy and the fear based social constructs to slow down my own growth, because I didn't find enough time to balance it out with my 'truth' and the year just got way ahead of me.
Next year, we will still be sitting in masculine energies, but it feels different to me for 2021. I'm feeling the energies are going to be much more centered around taking back our control, our truth. It feels to me like after 2020, 2021 is a year for us to break down the social constructs that have bound us this year, to question more about what is right for us and to break out of conformist behaviours that keep us on the same mediocre path year after year.
So next year, I am breaking through conformity once and for all... in my life, in my business, in my career, and all other aspects of my life. Regardless of what 2021 throws at us, I am determined to take daily steps and actions to reach my full potential and call-in the full life I desire and deserve.
And here are the three top ways I'm going to do it:
1. Setting Intentions and Creating Systems
I am starting the year by setting my intentions (not resolutions) for what I want to call in and what I want to achieve this year. I am committing to fully step into my power as a soulful, warrior woman. And to do this, I need to change old habits that no longer serve me and create new habits that feed my highest potential. But it's important for me to say here that I am not setting 'goals' for 2021, I am instead, focusing on setting up 'systems'. According to James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, habits are the compound interest of self-improvement and results have little to do with the goals you set and nearly everything to do with the systems you follow. Because systems are about the processes you use that lead to the result you want achieve, whereas goals are purely about the results and don't include the systems required to get you there.
Now remember, when I talk of systems, I am not talking about dogmatic requirements that you must follow, blah, blah, blah... I am talking about consistent 'action' you take to get you to the results you desire.
The other important thing to note, is that goals don't create habits, but systems do, so to truly incorporate change, we need to create repeatable systems that push us to reach our goals. So I am going to create systems that lead me to the results I want to achieve, in life (health, relationships), in business (growth, ideal clients), in personal development (spiritual growth).
2. Committing to my Miracle Morning
I have been a part of the Miracle Morning Community for some time now, but admit that I have not been a strict follower of the full SAVERS model. What I have always ensured is that I consistently do three things each and every morning... I sit in silence/meditation for at least 10 minutes, I visualise what I want to achieve for the day, and I read something inspirational, uplifting or educational.
Every morning. Without fail.
This forms part of my daily practice and helps me to mentally prepare for the day ahead.
But next year, I am taking my Miracle Morning routine [www.miraclemorning.com] to a whole new level. I am committing to getting up at 5am and completing each Life SAVERS activity (Silence, Affirmations, Visualisation, Exercise, Reading, Scribing). As Hal Elrod says, when you allow the outer world to influence your inner world, it creates anxiety and stress in your life, which reduces your capacity to reach your full potential. And I sincerely believe this is what a lot of us did this year, so I'm determined to change that in 2021, regardless of the energy the year brings.
So next year, I will not allow the outer world to dictate my inner landscape as it has done to most of us in 2020. Instead, I am creating the outside influence (SAVERS) that feed my inner dialogue which in turn starts each and every day on my terms so I can fully step into my full potential.
3. Challenge Mediocrity
What this year has done, among other things, is to solidify how easy it was for so many of us to just conform to the energies that played out over the year and remain firmly centered within our own bubble. And whilst I have no judgement of this (for health reasons it was mostly a requirement) I believe what happened is that for some of us, me included, 'isolating' took over many, if not all, aspects of our lives. I, for one, isolated from having to step up and step into my full potential. I allowed the fearful, controlling energies of 2020 to be my excuse for not challenging my own empowerment to own my full potential. I got complacent with the energy and allowed myself to stay small.
So, in 2021, I am going to be bold and courageous. I am going to challenge the systems, and constructs that try to intimidate us to not fully own our power and our potential. I am going to make it a daily practice to question these systems, break them down and replace them with my own ways of 'being'.
Because the thing is, if you continually 'give' and 'do' in terms of the expectations of others, you will never find your truth and reach your full potential.
So 2021 is going to be a big year for me, and I challenge you to consider what is calling to you for next year. Maybe some of these changes are calling you too. If so I encourage you to spend some time doing the work to determine what you want to release and what you want to call in for 2021. Let's go in prepped and ready Sisters!
Big luv
Kelli 🧡
P.S- take a look here at the two awesome offerings I'm bringing you in January 2021. If you also feel called to take back your power and fully step into your potential next year (instead of repeating the same patterns), come and join me for one or both of these workshops and start your year with clear goals and ambitions for the new year.